Thursday, April 23, 2015

Longing To Crossdress: Understanding the Irresistible Urge


 The Urge to Crossdress

Many friends  I know who are not part of the crossdressing (CD) community struggle to understand CDs, our objectives, and our motivations.
Perhaps, though, that’s not so surprising if you sit down and carefully think about our community as a whole—what we do, who we are. Then ask yourself: Why is it they don't understand us?
Well, in my opinion, mainly because many of us don’t really understand ourselves!

Let’s Ask “Why?” ..... Click here to read the full article at the Suddenly Fem Learning Annex

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Considering Crossdressing In Public for the Very First Time?

No matter where you are in your CD/TG journey, we are all quite similar, fundamentally. To be honest, some T-girls move at a slower pace than others. Some girls start with the “basics” and pretty much stay that way, while other T-girls immediately embrace the “complete feminine look” from the very first touch of a bra strap on their shoulder or after the first pair of tights/nylons.

It’s one thing dressing to stay indoors, but it’s quite another dressing to go out.

What were you like? Cast your mind back to your early days.

Maybe in the beginning you wore only a bra and panties from Suddenly Fem, slipping on a pair of tights—or maybe even stockings and a suspender belt—followed by a silky nightdress or even a dress that might have been a few sizes too big. Oh, the thrills! Oh, the heavenly feelings, the joy!

Then there was the progression over the months, the years, mainly via trial and error. Perhaps the progression happened unknowingly, until suddenly, there bloomed a beautiful rose right in front of your mirror, a complete image of a most attractive woman—a well dressed, well made-up, feminine creature. Who was she, what was her name? 

Click Here to read the entire article at the Suddenly Fem Learning Center

Friday, March 20, 2015

My Hometown - A Blog For Suddenly Fem by CiCi Kytten

My Hometown

I spend too much time on the internet. Maybe you do too. I’ve been criticized by friends and family members for this. And I don’t even argue. I do spend a lot of time online. I do check my phone for text messages way too often.  And I do belong to way too many chat services and social media sites.

Some days it seems like I’m always on. When I’m watching TV. When I’m eating dinner. When I’m doing laundry. When I’m writing my blogs.  I’m always online.  I’m always posting.  Or chatting.  Or shopping. Or checking out other people’s posts. 

But I’m sorry.  To me, the internet is much more than a waste of time. It’s much more than a diversion. It’s much more than a series of wires and microwaves -- or whatever it is that carries messages on the internet these days. (I have no idea. I’m online all the time, I should probably Google it.  And maybe some day I will. But I digress...)

I’m not just an idle online surfer. I’m not cruising porn sites or gambling away a fortune in online poker. I’m a fairly sane and sensible M2F trans person living in 2015 -- and the internet is my hometown.

I mean that.  We’re a rising minority in the world. But unlike other minorities, we don’t have a homeland. We don’t have elders and relatives back in the old country. We don’t come from a common place. And we haven’t set up a community. Ethnic minorities often do when they move to a new country. Gays and lesbians often do the same. 

But I’ve never heard of trans people doing this. I’ve never heard anyone refer to the transgender part of town or the trans side of town. Los Angeles has a Koreatown and a Chinatown and several other -towns. But I don’t know of any Transtown. There’s no CD City.  

I’m not like Andy Griffith or Opie or Aunt Bea. I can’t walk out my front door and stroll around Mayberry.  I can’t stop in and see my friends or check up on my trans community neighbors.

Sunday, February 15, 2015

Walking in Heels. A Crossdresser's Workout - On the Treadmill!

Yes, it's true!  As a crossdresser, you know you have better legs than the average girl.  Now find out why and how you can ramp up your fitness so you can be even more fierce and fit.

Check out this great new article from New Suddenly Fem™ Contributor Carollyn Olson.

Click here to read it in the Crossdresser Learning Center  at our main website

Tuesday, February 3, 2015

The Cashier, The Waitress and the Tow Truck Driver - A Blog for Suddenly Fem by CiCi Kytten

I looked around a SoCal night club recently and I noticed that I was one of the oldest girls there. Not in terms of actual age.  Although I’m one of the oldest in that sense too. <sad face> But in terms of how long I’ve been out and clubbing.

I joined the SoCal social scene in a big way in ’07.  But I was going out to fetish events and places like L.A.’s legendary Queen Mary as early as ’01 or so.  Back then I only went out maybe once or twice a year. (And if it was twice, the second time was always Halloween. The National Crossdressers’ Night Out.)

So I was hardly a fixture on the scene in the early 00‘s. At that point, most of us weren’t bold enough to venture into mainstream clubs  So we hung out in safe, trans-friendly spots. Afraid of being insulted. Afraid of being assaulted. Afraid of being recognized. So we played it safe. Ironic when you consider that, in those days, the simple act of stepping outside your door was an act of great courage. And a bit of a political statement.

Back in the day. At an L.A. fetish event.

Not that any of us will ever be famous. No one will ever write books or make movies about us. When the Jackie Robinsons and Rosa Parks and Cesar Chavez’s of the trans movement are remembered, it won’t be us.

We dressed too sexy. Stayed out too late. Drank too much. Partied too much. Took too many drugs. Had too much sex. Concerned ourselves with superficial matters over larger, more important political issues.  And, in general, allowed ourselves to get caught up in nothing more than, well, ourselves.

Thursday, January 15, 2015

Transgender Voice Feminization Help & Lessons Now Available from Suddenly Fem

Male to Female  transgender voice Feminization lessons

How Do I Feminize My Voice Male to Female?

Many transgender girls & crossdressers reach an impasse on their transformation journey when it comes to speaking like a woman. Male to Female Voice training is a journey. Join us in this two part podcast series where we explore what it means to sound feminine and discuss the techniques used to develop a ladylike tone. Part 2 will cover specific techniques you can practice at home, expert advice about vocal coaching expectations and recommendations about the best doctors for vocal Chord Surgery.

Suddenly Fem is here to help guide you with the best information & resources to help you be the Best you can Be!

Want to find out more?  Click here to listen to our Voice feminization Introductory video so you can match your fem look to your voice presentation

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

I Want More - A New Year's Blog For Suddenly Fem by CiCi Kytten

My wish for 2015 is pretty simple. I want more.

MORE acceptance and understanding of trans people from the world at large.

MORE acceptance and understanding of the many colors and variations of the trans experience WITHIN our community.

MORE love of trans children and teens from their families.

MORE understanding of trans spouses from our husbands, wives and partners.

Happy New Year, everyone!

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

We Are Not Pretty - A Blog for Suddenly Fem by CiCi Kytten

We are not pretty. 

A few of us might be. Some of us are absolutely stunning. Those are the few that you see on television or in movies or in beauty pageants and on cable interview programs. They are very pretty and feminine and thin and gorgeous.

But most of us are not pretty. 

We are too tall. Too thick. Too fat. Too awkward. Too clumsy. Too manly.

Our bodies are curved in all the wrong places. Our hands are too large. Our chins are too long. Our foreheads too pronounced. Our Adam’s apples too apparent. Our feet are so large that they stretch beyond the sizing proportions of most -- if not all -- mainstream shoemakers.

(Photo by Altomic Visuals, 2014)
We don’t know make-up. We don’t know style. And we walk funny in heels. We will never be feminine enough.  Or graceful enough.  Or passable enough.

But we will be here.  And our numbers are growing.

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Shopping in Secret for Crossdressing Clothing is now a thing of the Past! A New Retail Store Outlet is here

Philadelphia Magazine's GLBT Blog reports that Suddenly Fem has teamed up with Iconic South Street Store Passional to sell clothing and accessories just for crossdressers and transitioning Transgender women! a Retail outlet for Crossdressing Clothes is now available!

For crossdressers and transitioning transgender women, shopping in secret can be the norm. As of October 25, 2014, DL (down low) store browsing will become a faint memory now that this underserved consumer segment has a safe, caring location offering clothing and items tailor made for their bodies and lifestyles.  Suddenly Fem is now showing a myriad of styles from their fashion collection at Passional Boutique located at 317 South St, Philadelphia PA.
SuddenlyFem is the one and only fashion line with a complete selection of feminine dresses, suits, pants, lingerie and specialty under garments designed and manufactured for the biological male form.

For years, Suddenly Fem (SF) has allowed a select few customers to visit their design studios. Clients were in no way local. Many traveled from across the nation for their special fittings.  Demand and requests at SF have steadily increased for a retail outlet, but SF was never able to find a comfortable, safe environment for their clientele’s needs.

“We have primarily been an Internet fulfillment company but reps receive at least 4 requests a day from customers inquiring if we have a retail location,” states VP, Tyler DeSouza. “I first met the staff at Passional at the Mazzoni Center’s Philadelphia Trans Health Show in June 2014, as we both had a booth.  I was impressed by their organization, and after visiting the store I could not think of a more appropriate retail placement for our innovative, fashion designs.”  At the show, a collaboration was born.

Passional Boutique has been serving the alternative fashion lifestyle community for over 20 years and has a built-in following of crossdressing customers. Complimenting the great selection of specially designed styles is the exceptionally helpful and understanding staff at Passional – voted best “Adults Fun Only Store” Best of Philly (magazine) 2012.

As for demographics and customers, the city of Brotherly love makes perfect sense as a location for SF’s first retail outlet. Philadelphia has recently been increasing benefits, protections and heath care services to Transgender individuals leading Philadelphia Magazine to pen an article in August 2013 “Is Philly the New Transgender Capital of the World?”

Suddenly Fem will offer a full assortment of best sellers across their line. The collection will include dresses, teddies, gaff panties, skirts and even pants. Passional staff is prepared to guide the beginning x-dresser after collaborative training meetings with Suddenly Fem staff.

Kali Morgan from Passional, passionately declares, “We are excited to bring in this line that is so often mentioned by our customers! We have sold items for the transgender community since the start of our business, but this partnership will allow us to offer a wider variety of merchandise and educational resources for this underserved market.”

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Only In Life - A Blog for Suddenly Fem by CiCi Kytten

There has been yet another rash of violent crimes against trans women recently. I know these crimes happen all the time. But sometimes they come in bunches – reminding us of just how much hate and misunderstanding still exists in the world.

It is beyond horrifying how callously and brutally the lives of innocent trans women are taken. As if our lives hold less value in the minds of others.

Often, when another senseless death makes the evening news or a Facebook post, we, as a community, rally. We hold vigils. Or protests. We post kind and loving sentiments online - even though most of us have never met the person in question.

And there’s one more thing we do.

Passable? Or just another guy in a dress?

We do not ask stupid questions.  
The kinds of questions we tend to ask of each other when we’re all still alive.

Was she trans?  Or just a crossdresser?

Was she passable?  Or just another guy in a dress?

Was she pretty? Was she ugly?  Was she out? Was she closeted?

Was she full-time or part-time?  Was she on hormones? 

Top surgery? Bottom surgery?

Did she involve herself in trans political issues? Or was she a party girl?

Did she wear too much make up?  Or not nearly enough?
Was that her real hair? Were those her real boobs? Was that her real ass?

Suddenly, when someone passes away, all of the shaming and judging that goes on within our community stops. Suddenly none of it seems to matter.

Because it never mattered. 

In death, we simply remember… she was one of us.  


Our community. Our sisters and brothers. Our family. We may not get along. We may not agree on many things. And we may choose very different ways of expressing our trans nature. But we all still feel the pain. When one of us is lost, we all still feel the heartache. The anger. The sorrow. And yet, it would be sad to think that that sorrow is the only thing that binds us together.

Only in life… do we shame each other.

Only in life… do we insult someone for choosing a path that’s different than our own.

Only in life… do we bully those who don’t fit precisely into our vision of how a life should be lived.

Only in life… do we categorize and criticize and demonize those different from ourselves.

Yet only in life... do we have the opportunity to make someone feel good about themselves. 

Only in life... do we have the opportunity to help someone feel confident about their gender expression. To feel positive about their appearance. To feel supported in their glorious, flawed, and undeniably human individuality.

Only in life... can we express true love for one another as we each make our very different journeys through our short but precious days on Earth.

Only in life.

Take care out there.
Be safe. Be smart. Be whoever the fuck you want to be. 
Because life is short.  And you only get one.