Wednesday, April 5, 2017

Makeup Application for CD-TG - Step by Step Carollyn Olsen

I am not an expert—I don't even play one on TV. I do, however, apply makeup frequently and I did stay at a Holiday Inn.”

Applying makeup may be the most important part of being a crossdresser. Every girl needs to develop her own style and variation to fit her personality. However, I do recommend that you keep this information handy when you put your makeup on so that you don't forget the steps. Feel free to use these instructions as a starter.
One thing that every professional cosmetologist agrees upon is that “the three most important rules when applying makeup are: blend, blend, and blend.” There should be no visible lines in your makeup when you are done.
Before you start, you will need the correct tools:
Adequate Time: Don't rush (remember: “Haste makes waste”). It took me almost two hours when I first started; I'm down to less than one hour now.
Cotton Swabs: I have used Q-Tips, but I prefer the style with a rounded, pad shape on one end and a sharper pad on the other. It makes cleaning up boo-boos much easier.
Eye Makeup Remover: You will almost certainly need to fix at least one boo-boo.
A Good Set of Brushes: Whatever you do, invest in a professional set of brushes. The cheap brushes will fall apart after a few uses.
A Hand Towel: For wiping your brushes.
A GOOD Table Mirror: Buy a lighted flip-sided, tilting, magnifying mirror, which makes seeing your face easy.
Proper Lighting: This is absolutely essential. Too much of a difference in lighting from one side of your face to the other will make your makeup lopsided. Dim lighting will probably cause you to put on too much makeup. Too bright and you may never finish (BTW, daylight is the crossdresser's enemy).
Now, get out all of the makeup you will be using and place it on your makeup table or counter. I line up my makeup, from left to right, in the order it will be used.

Saturday, December 24, 2016

Crossdressers are Brave

There are many words used to describe the characteristics of crossdressers.
Some words we like and we recognize those characteristics in ourselves. Some we don’t like as much and avoid using when thinking about why we dress in female attire from Suddenly Fem.
Positive adjectives and phrases might include examples such as: elegant, well-dressed, attractive, convincing, or feminine. On the other hand, the more negative connotations may mean that crossdressers can be called crazy, irrational, fetishists, abnormal, and so on…
Yet there’s one word that’s very high in my own personal list of words to describe us: brave. Why brave, you might ask? Isn’t that a word associated with some heroic deed or action, with some display of courage or with overcoming challenges that are presented to you?
Yes, precisely. Any man who, among other things, dons female clothing; uses makeup to beautify himself; adorns himself with accessories such as earrings, rings, necklaces, and bracelets; squeezes into a pair of high heeled women’s shoes; puts on a feminine-looking wig; or, in short, is a crossdresser who goes out and about, is just that—very, very brave.
Believe me, it takes real courage to do some of the following when you are planning to go out crossdressed in your new dress from Suddenly Fem:

Wednesday, November 16, 2016

The Pink Mist: Freeing Your Alter Ego

Most crossdressers I know are sensible, rational people.
In fact, more often than not, these crossdressers are professional people, usually with good academic qualifications and a sensible outlook on life.
Many of my acquaintances also run businesses or hold senior positions in their companies. They are reasonably well known in their chosen field of work or among the societies in which they dwell.
They work hard, make astute decisions—and some even play hard too, taking up adventure sports or aggressive games, getting their hands dirty with their typical man-type hobbies. It would appear that, like almost all of the rest of the male population, they are superficially the same, just aiming to get by and on in life.
In addition, the demographics of my crossdresser friends suggest that there may be a wife or long-term partner in the background and, typically, a couple of children in tow. All in all, fairly staid, pillars of society type of people.
Yet wave a set of Suddenly Fem stockings and garters, a corset, a slinky nightgown, or attractive lingerie in front of them and see what happens to their personalities. Give them an uninterrupted opportunity to slip into a sexy black dress (with or without thigh-high boots) or a low-cut top with a short, tight-fitting mini skirt and can you believe the changes that occur?
There’s no use denying it, but all crossdressers share the same sort of emotions when the opportunity to dress as a female arises. We all have the same irresistible feelings—and any sense of rationality often flies out of the proverbial window. Now, I don’t pretend to know where these feelings come from but I can, quite neatly, group them together as follows:

Anticipation and Anxiety

Thursday, September 29, 2016

The Suddenly Fem 2016 Fall Catalog Has Arrived !

Fabulous Fashion and Accessories for Crossdressers and Transgender M2F Shoppers!
So let's talk about What's NEW & why you're going to look hotter than ever this Fall & Winter!

Clothing & Fashion: All New Dresses - some highlights are our fabulous New Leather and mesh trimmed style, a great new Swing style Plus a Sexy Zip front Red Dress

We have added Hot New Satin Teddies, plus coordinating pants that fit you right!

Shaping is always a Hot Topic, and Suddenly Fem has you covered with many new shaping styles that slim you down plus lift your  bust & your Rear!

The final highlight for the 2017 season is our HOT New Lingerie. Lace chemises with  thick satin adjustable shoulder straps, Why? because they hold Breastforms.  And look at that amazing rear detail!

To browse our New Selections of Wigs, Accessories, padding and more,  spend some quality time browsing this season's Online Virtual Flip Catalog - It's so fun! 
You can also order a paper catalog here!

Saturday, September 10, 2016

A Classic Dilemma: Do I Tell or Not? 

by Kathy Hamilton


The very nature of being part of a greatly misunderstood minority makes most of us very secretive.
As we all know, crossdressers and other T people have long lagged behind the other “letters” in the acronym LGB (years behind in fact). Even now, despite the recent amazing advancement in awareness of T issues nationally and internationally, the general public, by and large, simply does not understand crossdressers.
I know I’ve said this before but it’s not altogether surprising really, given that many of us don’t truly understand ourselves!
Now, as we all know it’s about gender and not sexuality but the typical man or woman in the population at large simply doesn’t get it. A gay man can dress in a tee shirt and chinos or he can wear a smart three-piece, double-breasted business suit—but either way it’s often hard to detect that he’s gay. A lesbian woman can have a masculine style haircut and wear denim and a plaid shirt or she can don a pretty flowing dress—and, again, it can be hard to discern that she is gay.
But a crossdresser…? Most crossdressers I know, when attired in one of their Suddenly Fem dresses or wearing a set of slinky Suddenly Fem underwear and wig, look “180 degrees” different from what they look like in their male attire. Add in a change of mannerisms, walk and even speech—and you can see why the public doesn't know what to make of us! Labels such as being gay or assumptions that we all want to transition to be a woman are immediately levied at us.
Right, so now we’ve agreed that crossdressers are different to most others. We also agree that we need to be furtive, secretive and, above all, cautious—especially as there are still some people around who often take offence at what we do. No matter that crossdressing physically harms no one, there are those who will look to cause us injury or even worse.
But the point is, do I continue keep my secret?
Well, let’s have a look at some of the groups of people nearest and dearest to us:


Especially for those married crossdressers—and if you believe oft-quoted statistics that almost all crossdressers are heterosexual males with spouses—keeping their dressing a secret can be painful and highly fraught. To make time to dress and to keep hidden “stashes” away from prying eyes often needs the skills and organisational abilities of a military operation. The omnipresent risks of getting caught or discovered or forgetting to take off all of your makeup or nail polish can be very stressful.
So, do I tell?

Thursday, June 9, 2016

The Little Old Lady at Trader Joe’s - A blog for SuddenlyFem by CiCi Kytten

I’m a part-time girl. I go back and forth. With no plans to transition.  And only vague plans to go full-time.  I don’t look like a woman.  I don’t pass. Whenever I’m out and dressed, people know. I’m not fooling anyone. And I’m not really trying to fool anyone. At 6’1” and having never taken hormones, that seems a pretty unachievable goal.

Nonetheless, I still go out quite often. I still spend a lot of time en femme. It’s the way I feel most comfortable. But even more so, it’s the way I feel most special. (And doesn’t everyone want to feel special?)

"When I first started going out, I only dressed for the nightclubs I attended."

When I first started going out, I only dressed for the nightclubs I attended. I’d drive to LA, stay at a motel, and dress there. I’d go straight from the motel to the club. Then straight back at the end of the night. No stops along the way. No errands or snack stops.

Then, something changed. You see, I was always hesitant to change out of my girl clothes.  Once I was dressed. Once I was CiCi. I didn’t want to go back to being male. I didn’t want to go back to being not-so-special. So I became more daring. This was all years ago. But it seems like yesterday. I started driving more as CiCi. I’d even stop along the way at convenience stores, gas stations... the 7-11.  Did I get stares?  Yes.  Comments?  Rarely. 

And with every stop and every side trip, my confidence grew.

Wednesday, April 20, 2016

What I Learned from Kinky Boots - A blog for Suddenly Fem by CiCi Kytten

I attended a performance of the Tony Award-winning musical, Kinky Boots, at the spectacular Pantages Theatre in Hollywood last weekend. And I had a ball. It was really fun. Great story. Great music.  Gorgeous cast. 
I also dressed for the event.  Wearing my own pair of hot red “kinky boots.” In short, I had a blast.

After the show... Kinky Boots in Hollywood!
And yet. Something was amiss. There were moments in the performance that were difficult to watch.  Or to hear.  When a friend asked me how it was, I said, “I laughed. I cried. I cringed.”
I hate to say that I cringed because it is a fun musical.  Funny and thoughtful.  And probably a nice diversion for mainstream tastes. But I did cringe at parts. On a positive note, Kinky Boots showed me just how far the trans community has come in the past 11 years. (The movie about a struggling shoe manufacturer that finds success by producing thigh high boots for drag queens first came out in 2005.) But it made me wonder if the rest of the world has noticed our progress.
I hate to be critical, but a lot has happened in the past 11 years. And the script could use some updating.  Was anyone trans involved behind the scenes? Apparently not. 

Wednesday, February 17, 2016

Packing and Traveling Tips: Crossdressing on the Go!

by Carollyn Olson

We’ve had a number of friends ask us how we manage to pack outfits for boy and girl mode into a single carry-on bag (and shoulder bag) for a mixed business and pleasure trip. So this is the perfect format for us to share our packing list and tricks with you.
We typically pack clothes for 2-5 days, which can cover most situations and takes up about half of our carry-on bag. All items are synthetic, wrinkle free, and light weight. Many of the Suddenly Fem fashions fit the bill and take up very little room in a small suitcase or travel bag.
Mixing and matching is the most important. Key colors are black, tan, brown, and one bright complementary color—such as purple, fuchsia, or blue. White and silver can be accents. Everything must have the possibility of being worn at least twice, but in different combinations.

For makeup, transfer your cream foundation and other items into 2-inch diameter by ½-inch high screw top containers. For liquids, use tiny ¼-inch cylindrical screw top vials. And buy small 1-inch square containers of eye shadow colors for blush, bronzer, and highlighter (for contouring).
For eyes, a small four color eye shadow kit is perfect. A tube of lipstick the same color as your beard tint is invaluable. Cut any long lip liner, eyeliner, and brow pencils in half and use combination sharpener/liner caps. A small lipstick-sized tube of Vaseline works as makeup remover, skin moisturizer, and lip gloss. A small capped blush brush, combo eye shadow swab and brush, and 3-inch powder compact with mirror are the tools you need. Buy the smallest possible lipstick and mascara you can find at the drugstore.
A makeup kit fits into a zipper pouch the size of a grade school pencil pouch. And bring along a Handi-wipe in a Ziploc bag to keep your makeup off of the hotel towels; the Handi-wipe can be washed, wrung out, and dries quickly. 
Also carry a small battery-operated razor. If you dab rather than slide the razor, you can trim stubble without removing foundation. When done shaving, all you will need is a light touch up of beard tint, foundation, and powder.

Thursday, January 7, 2016

The Swing of Things: Super Fem Swing Dress Review


By Carollyn Olson

I waited with guarded optimism for the Suddenly Fem swing dress to arrive in the mail.
I had questioned my reasons for purchasing the dress over and over again since placing the order from the fabulous Suddenly Fem fall catalog.

“Was I making the right decision?” I asked myself. “Was the dress ‘too young’ for me? Could I look half as good as the lovely trans girl model in the catalog? Was I insane?”
All my fears were dismissed when I received the swing dress and wore it for the first time. The dress was above and beyond my expectations.

The swing dress is a sassy combination of elegance and style with its integrated full petticoat under a full skirt, which adds volume and movement to your hips, and the sleek and fashionable black lace see-through back and sleeves.

The entire dress design immediately enhanced my appearance, especially with the help of a corset, and helped me to create a daring hourglass figure. The softness of the stretch fabric material made the dress so comfortable to wear and its 22-inch back zipper allowed me to step in to the dress with ease. I did not add a belt, as shown in the catalog, but that too is an option to provide a little different look to what is already a stunning dress.

I tried to be a little more daring than usual due to the dress’s beautiful lacy back. I went bra less to keep any unneeded straps showing through the lace pattern. I used a spray adhesive to attach my breast forms to my chest, thus eliminating the need for a bra. And the results were better than I expected. My breasts stayed in perfect position, giving me even more freedom of movement.
The swing dress is perfect for any flirty or special occasion. I can see myself wearing the dress for a girl’s night out on the town, to a semi-formal party, or to any special occasion where a little formality is required. No matter where you wear the swing dress, you'll feel extra girly in its effervescent look and you’ll draw more than your share of compliments.

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The Girl Who Said “Own It” - A Blog for Suddenly Fem by CiCi Kytten

Ever since my Tedx UCR talk was posted online a few months ago, I’ve received a lot of nice comments.  And I’m totally flattered.  That evening, and all of the work that led up to it, represented a real highlight for me in 2015 as well as a major milestone in my personal life.  

Now, a few months down the line, my friends and coworkers often tease me about the talk’s central theme.  Usually in lighthearted joking, but sometimes in more serious conversations. To the point where, in certain circles, I became known as, “The Girl Who Said Own It.”

I was not the girl who said, "Own it."

But that’s not true at all.  In my talk, I tell of my first time out in the general public at a Las Vegas casino. But I was not the girl who said, “Own It.”  My friend was.  She was the one who gave me the advice. So, in a sense, I wasn’t the girl who said, “Own it,” I was the girl who heard, “Own it.”

We’re a fairly close community here in Southern California.  There are times when it feels like everyone knows everyone else.  And everyone else’s business.  So people immediately started guessing who my unnamed friend might be.  I’ve heard a variety of different guesses – all good friends of mine from the trans community. All good friends from whom I’ve received a lot of great advice.

But I didn’t know any of them when I first started out.  I had chatted a little online, but I hadn’t made any close friends in the early 00’s.  Those bonds didn’t form until later in the decade when I became more involved in different chat rooms and, of course, when I started going out on a regular basis.  

So, no, the girl who said, “Own It,” wasn’t a trans girl. She wasn’t a WildSide girl (My first walk through the casino happened about 5 years before the first Viva WildSide event.) She wasn’t a fellow club goer or party girl.  She wasn’t a longtime online confidante. I met all those wonderful people later on.

The girl who said, “Own It,” was my wife.