Saturday, July 18, 2015

No Small Amount of Courage - A Blog for SuddenlyFem by CiCi Kytten



This week, Caitlyn Jenner received the Arthur Ashe Award for Courage from sports television network, ESPN. Their decision to honor Caitlyn was, to say the least, controversial.  The public and the pundits were quick to weigh in on the matter with most of them responding quite negatively.

Many pointed to other worthy candidates - cancer patients, war heroes - but as an ESPN spokesperson said, there are a great number of worthy candidates every year. So why such a firestorm of protest?  Why this year?

It all comes back to Caitlyn. It all comes back to us. It all comes back to the general public’s lack of understanding of, and lack of respect for, the transgender community in general.  

In the eyes of many, she just didn’t deserve it.  



Internet commenters were blunt. Calling the honor everything from “a travesty” to “disgusting.” Two sportscasters that I respect were adamant in their opposition. Frank Deford remarked that, “Courage is usually involved with overcoming something.” -- insinuating the Caitlyn has not overcome enough. Bob Costas also didn’t believe she deserved the recognition, belittling her coming out by saying that it took took “no small amount of courage.”

I can’t speak for Ms. Jenner.  I don’t know her. And like most people, until recently, I knew very little about her.  But I do know the trans community.  I’ve been an active member of this community for fifteen years. I’ve met people from all over the world, and all across the trans spectrum. Some I respect. Some I do not. Some I like. Some not so much. But, if there is one word that sums up, to me, the entire trans community... the entire trans experience... it is this one.

Courage.

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Tools to help you Choose the right wig for YOUR face as a Crossdresser or Transgender Woman





T-girls, wigs and hairstyles… what can I say? It’s almost impossible to find a novice T-girl whose first desire is not to buy that long haired, sexily styled wig from Suddenly Fem’s collection. Perhaps it’s been a long held dream or fantasy to parade around with long hair, flicking it behind your shoulders, seductively easing it away from your eyes, and generally just enjoying the sensation of feeling and looking like a young woman.
But this look is not for everyone, and sometimes our choice of wigs gives us away as male or at the very least doesn’t flatter us at all. If your goal is to “pass” or blend in whilst out and about, a considerable amount of thought needs to be given to the type of wig or hairpiece you choose.
Your skin tone, your natural coloring, plus, importantly, the shape of your face all are factors to be considered. You don’t need me to tell you that men’s faces are quite different than women’s, and whilst there are 6/7 recognized different types of faces, many men tend to have only 2/3 of these, mainly square or oblong faces (see more below).

But, as a starter, well before choosing a wig style, do the following to work out what type of face you have; measure:

  • Your face across the top of your cheekbones
  • Across your jawline from the widest point to the widest point
  • Across your forehead at the widest point (usually somewhere about halfway between your hairline and eyebrows)
  • From the tip of your hairline to the bottom of your chin
Now have a read of the following and see which face is the most similar to yours, and which wig you should consider to purchase from the Suddenly Fem collection - plus, importantly, which wig style you should avoid:

Click here to  read the Full article at the Suddenly Fem Learning Annex

Sunday, June 21, 2015

Riding the Emotional Roller Coaster - A Blog for SuddenlyFem by CiCi Kytten


The most daring, dangerous and exhilarating ride of the summer is coming soon to the amusement park in your mind. Welcome to the Trans Emotional Roller Coaster! Thrill to the exciting new experiences waiting behind every turn! Brave the emotional ups and downs! Beware the unexpected dips and twists that threaten to wreck your mood and ruin your day.

I know of no one who enters tg/cd world who doesn’t experience fast-changing emotional extremes. And you don’t have to be on hormones to feel a wide range. The agony and the ecstasy. The joy and the pain. Surges of confidence. Moments of doubt. 

Of course, the same can be said for mainstream American life. We all go through our share of ups and downs. But for me, in trans world, the highs seem higher, the lows seem lower, and the distance between the upbeat Funhouse and the scary-as-hell House of Horrors seems particularly short.

I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. And it can happen at any stage of your trans progression.


Here's to a summer of fun!
You post a few pix on a social media site and you get no response.  You feel unloved. You post a few more and you get all kinds of likes and comments - and you suddenly feel like the most popular girl on the net. And you haven’t a clue as to why which pics were favorited and which ones were not.

You go out dressed for the very first time -- and have one of the best nights out in your entire life.  You vow that this will now become a regular thing. But other factors in your life invade and your job or your girlfriend or your family drive you back into the closet. Literally pushing you back into the dark.

You come out to a few friends and receive wonderfully supportive responses from seemingly everyone.  Your self-esteem soars!  But then someone very close to you -- a sibling, a dear friend, a parent -- rejects you. And all of those other wonderful responses don’t seem to matter.

You want to get off.  But ride isn’t finished yet.

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Breast forms and Hormones On Sale. Annual Figure Enhancing Sale starts!

Looking to stock up at a discount on Suddenly Fem All natural hormone enhancers for transgender transformation? 

or maybe you need a new pair of  Breast forms to freshen up your look.

Use code SpringSale3 and take 20% off:

Check out the Savings & Coupons by clicking here


Sunday, May 10, 2015

My Favorite Planet is Pluto - A Blog For SuddenlyFem by CiCi Kytten


My favorite planet is Pluto. It always has been and probably always will be. It probably started with everyone’s favorite Disney dog.  I always liked Pluto.  A friendly loyal lovable dog.  Who wouldn’t want a Pluto in their life?

So when I learned about the solar system in grade school, I had no choice but to choose Pluto as my favorite planet.  Who else was I going to choose?  The God of War (Mars)?  The King of the Gods (Jupiter)?  I’m a pacifist. I’m a commoner. So I went with the friendly, loyal, lovable planet... Pluto.

I also liked the fact that Pluto -- the planet -- was a bit of an underdog.  Pluto was the smallest planet. And the furthest from the Sun.  And when we’re children, don’t we all feel like we’re the smallest sometimes? And the furthest from the action?

 My favorite planet is (still) Pluto!

It even goes further.  Later in life when I learned about astrology -- now there’s an exact science -- I learned that Pluto was my lucky planet.  And with all that we’ve learned about Pluto in recent years, perhaps that’s why I’ve never been particularly lucky.

Because, as you might have heard, Pluto is no longer a planet. It was once considered a planet, but now it’s considered a dwarf planet -- primarily made of rock and ice -- and a part of the Kuiper Belt.

And yet Pluto is still my favorite planet. Not because I don’t believe in science. Not because I don’t trust modern day astronomers. I do. But Pluto is still my favorite planet because of what it stands for.  And, as with most things in my life these days, it has everything to do with being trans.

You see, every time I read a trans-related article on the internet, there’s always some uninformed loudmouth spouting hate and denying the validity of our existence. And every once in a while, the loudmouth will get really blunt and rudely direct trans girls to lift their skirts and look between their legs. “That’s biology,” he’ll say.  “That’s what’s real.  Not those crazy, confused ideas in your crazy, confused minds.  Look between your legs.  Check your anatomy. That’s reality. That’s science.”

And that’s when my friendly, loyal, lovable sidekick, Pluto, comes to my rescue.

Monday, April 27, 2015

CiCi at TEDxUCR!

Coming soon! My "Ted Talk" at TEDxUCR! The video of my talk will be posted soon, and I'll be sure to link it here. The subject of my talk was, "The Hardest Thing in the World," and it was based on a few of my SuddenlyFem blogs!

Presenting my "Ted Talk" at TEDxUCR.  (UC Riverside)
I was so touched that my entire office came out to support me at the event!

Thursday, April 23, 2015

Longing To Crossdress: Understanding the Irresistible Urge

 

 The Urge to Crossdress

Many friends  I know who are not part of the crossdressing (CD) community struggle to understand CDs, our objectives, and our motivations.
Perhaps, though, that’s not so surprising if you sit down and carefully think about our community as a whole—what we do, who we are. Then ask yourself: Why is it they don't understand us?
Well, in my opinion, mainly because many of us don’t really understand ourselves!

Let’s Ask “Why?” ..... Click here to read the full article at the Suddenly Fem Learning Annex

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Considering Crossdressing In Public for the Very First Time?

No matter where you are in your CD/TG journey, we are all quite similar, fundamentally. To be honest, some T-girls move at a slower pace than others. Some girls start with the “basics” and pretty much stay that way, while other T-girls immediately embrace the “complete feminine look” from the very first touch of a bra strap on their shoulder or after the first pair of tights/nylons.

It’s one thing dressing to stay indoors, but it’s quite another dressing to go out.

What were you like? Cast your mind back to your early days.

Maybe in the beginning you wore only a bra and panties from Suddenly Fem, slipping on a pair of tights—or maybe even stockings and a suspender belt—followed by a silky nightdress or even a dress that might have been a few sizes too big. Oh, the thrills! Oh, the heavenly feelings, the joy!

Then there was the progression over the months, the years, mainly via trial and error. Perhaps the progression happened unknowingly, until suddenly, there bloomed a beautiful rose right in front of your mirror, a complete image of a most attractive woman—a well dressed, well made-up, feminine creature. Who was she, what was her name? 

Click Here to read the entire article at the Suddenly Fem Learning Center

Friday, March 20, 2015

My Hometown - A Blog For Suddenly Fem by CiCi Kytten


My Hometown

I spend too much time on the internet. Maybe you do too. I’ve been criticized by friends and family members for this. And I don’t even argue. I do spend a lot of time online. I do check my phone for text messages way too often.  And I do belong to way too many chat services and social media sites.

Some days it seems like I’m always on. When I’m watching TV. When I’m eating dinner. When I’m doing laundry. When I’m writing my blogs.  I’m always online.  I’m always posting.  Or chatting.  Or shopping. Or checking out other people’s posts. 

But I’m sorry.  To me, the internet is much more than a waste of time. It’s much more than a diversion. It’s much more than a series of wires and microwaves -- or whatever it is that carries messages on the internet these days. (I have no idea. I’m online all the time, I should probably Google it.  And maybe some day I will. But I digress...)



I’m not just an idle online surfer. I’m not cruising porn sites or gambling away a fortune in online poker. I’m a fairly sane and sensible M2F trans person living in 2015 -- and the internet is my hometown.

I mean that.  We’re a rising minority in the world. But unlike other minorities, we don’t have a homeland. We don’t have elders and relatives back in the old country. We don’t come from a common place. And we haven’t set up a community. Ethnic minorities often do when they move to a new country. Gays and lesbians often do the same. 

But I’ve never heard of trans people doing this. I’ve never heard anyone refer to the transgender part of town or the trans side of town. Los Angeles has a Koreatown and a Chinatown and several other -towns. But I don’t know of any Transtown. There’s no CD City.  

I’m not like Andy Griffith or Opie or Aunt Bea. I can’t walk out my front door and stroll around Mayberry.  I can’t stop in and see my friends or check up on my trans community neighbors.

Sunday, February 15, 2015

Walking in Heels. A Crossdresser's Workout - On the Treadmill!





Yes, it's true!  As a crossdresser, you know you have better legs than the average girl.  Now find out why and how you can ramp up your fitness so you can be even more fierce and fit.

Check out this great new article from New Suddenly Fem™ Contributor Carollyn Olson.

Click here to read it in the Crossdresser Learning Center  at our main website