Monday, April 14, 2014

Is that Pocahontas? 

We thought you would enjoy these fun  gender Adjustments to your favorite (or least favorite) characters!

Check out the Metamorphosis here
Ooo , it's a whole new Gender bending take on Disney Characters by Sakimi Chan, a Fabulous Canadian Artist. 

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Snowflakes and Fingerprints

Here’s something for my friends back east and up north -- enduring all those cold nights, long blizzards, and that fearsome whirlwind known as the polar vortex. Quite honestly, this won’t help at all. I moved away from New England and all that cold long ago. But maybe this will give you something to think about as you look out at all those snowflakes coming down. 

Like most people I was raised to believe that there were two genders.  Male and female. Simple. Two boxes to check off on every school form and every job application I ever filled out. Boys were blue. Girls were pink.  And therefore I was blue. 

Snakes and snails and puppy dog tails. 

But a funny thing happened on the way to adulthood. Or even adolescence. I started to feel like maybe I wasn’t quite the same as the other boys. I felt different. Odd. And quite often, I felt a little bit girlie.

Like many others, I repressed those feelings. Hid them. Denied them. Buried them in the backyard with all of our beloved pets who’d been hit by cars.

Later in life, when I started exploring my feminine side, I started to see variations in the world.  Maybe gender wasn’t binary.  Maybe it wasn’t so black and white. Or pink and blue. I remember seeing continuums online.  Self-tests that one could take in the privacy of one’s home. 

Thursday, February 6, 2014

The Naked Truth - A Blog for SuddenlyFem by CiCi Kytten

In response to some of the questions and comments I’ve received over the years, I thought I’d take a moment to clear up some things. About my hair, my diet, my smile, and that “bullet hole” in my chest. I’m sorry that so much of trans life is reduced to the physical and the superficial. But that seems to be the way of the world these days. And I’d be dishonest to say that my look doesn’t mean a lot to me or that I haven’t taken a lot of time and trouble to refine it. 

The interesting thing is that so many supposed weaknesses that I felt self-conscious about as a child or as a male have now become strengths. Funny how that works out.
Photo by Altomic Visuals. November 2013
  1. No. This is not my real hair. It’s an 80‘s-style blonde punk “gimmick wig” that I have to beat into submission to achieve the look I like. I wear the wig tilted to the side because I prefer the part in my hair to be on the side rather than the middle of my head. (And no, that is not comfortable.) Props to Stephanie Danderson - a makeover artist and icon in the Vegas trans/drag scene. Stephanie taught me how to add dark coloring to the roots to make the wig look more realistic and less monotone. (Without the roots, my look had a rather washed-out appearance.) NOTE: this treatment is not good for wigs. The wigs I buy are not high quality, and I go through several of them in a year.

Friday, January 10, 2014

Making the World A Little More Trans Friendly

From time to time, when someone on a social media site mentions an upcoming event or a new venue, an inevitable question is raised, “Is it trans friendly?”

And while I understand the place where that question comes from, I have to admit I’m not sure how it should be answered. If the event has been shared by someone in the tg/cd community, then I think it’s pretty safe to assume that the person who presented it considered it trans friendly.  

But what actually constitutes “trans friendly”?

I actually have a little bit of experience in this area.  Although that experience has nothing to do with the transgender community.  I grew up in Western New England in a small town that was predominately white.  Actually, that’s an understatement.  My town was entirely white... with the exception of a few families.

I don’t consider the people who live there to be racist.  Although every community has its share of the ignorant and the prejudiced. The problem with our little town was that there was no diversity... no exposure to other races or cultures.  No opportunity to form close bonds or personal ties with anyone outside our own culture.

In that vacuum, unfortunately, stereotypes and preconceived notions prevail. And if those stereotypes are negative -- as they often are -- then negative stereotypes prevail.

And that, to me, is the problem that America is having right now with the transgender community.  People don’t know us.  They’ve heard about us.  Perhaps they’ve seen depictions of us on television or in the movies.  But those depictions are rarely realistic.  And they’re often unflattering.

Sunday, December 15, 2013

Going Down Dreaming - A Blog for SuddenlyFem by CiCi Kytten

A friend of mine passed away not too long ago.  He had been a successful costume designer in Hollywood with many notable screen credits and several notable gowns on his resume.

But he was more than a designer.  He was a dreamer.  And he wasn’t afraid to dream big.  At one point he and his partner wrote a Broadway-style musical.  They even mounted a short-run production of it.

It wasn’t very good. But then, most first-timers aren’t that successful when it comes to films, plays, novels, and such.  At the time, a lot of people rolled their eyes.  Who did this guy think he was?  He was a costume designer, not a playwright.  Not a composer. Not a Broadway impresario. 

Who did he think he was?

Long Train Running.  "Without love, where would you be now?"

People called him a dreamer. Delusional.  Unreasonable. But... OMG... what a fun life he had. Do you have a dream?  This guy had several.  And he kept them spinning on the tops of tall sticks like those jugglers on the old Ed Sullivan Show.  Darting back and forth from stick to stick. Keeping all those dishes spinning.  Keeping all those dreams alive.

The relationship was mutual.  Those dreams kept him alive.

Tuesday, December 3, 2013

Our Girls in the News!


SuddenlyFem blog writer CiCi Kitten has released a collection of her blogs on ebook, “Baby Steps in Sky High Heels.”  You can get your copy on either Apple iBooks or Amazon Kindle!

And please check out SuddenlyFem cover girl Mercedes Demarko and the new SuddenlyFem fashion line in a pictorial feature in the latest Transformation MagazineOrder your copy now!  

Monday, November 11, 2013

Mercedes Demarko - Cover Girl! A Blog for SuddenlyFem by CiCi Kytten

When Mercedes Demarko walked into her second Suddenly Fem catalog photo shoot this past summer, she was understandably excited.  She’d done one shoot for the fashion website before, but this was a much bigger shoot.  And five days long.  

In her first shoot, there were only 3 people on the set -- including herself.  For her second shoot, there was a crew of 12... including several other models.  Mercedes was excited, but she was also a bit intimidated. The models she’d be working with had a lot more experience than her. 

The Suddenly Fem Fall Catalog -- featuring cover girl, Mercedes Demarko!

But Mercedes isn’t one to back down from a challenge.  She took her place on the set and in the dressing room alongside the other models and immediately felt completely comfortable.  “They were all so nice,” she says. “There was no cattiness at all.  They were much more experienced than I was, so they guided me. They helped me.  And gave me advice.”

And the fact that she was trans didn’t seem to be an issue either.

“They were very gracious.  Very friendly to me,” she says. They helped her with her poses... how to hold her hands, how to hold her posture.  And most importantly of all, how to relax.

All of that advice must have paid off. Because while Mercedes walked into that shoot as the most inexperienced model on the set, she walked away with the one thing that every model in the studio was hoping to score... the cover.

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Honest Answers to Inevitable Questions - A Blog for SuddenlyFem by CiCi Kytten

I’ve come out to a number of friends and co-workers lately and, no surprise, they have a lot of questions. And that’s just natural. I know a lot of girls don’t like personal questions.  It can be intrusive. Offputting.  Or just plain annoying.  Some girls feel like they’re being objectified.  Or reduced to a research project.  And that’s understandable.

But I see it differently.  I like the opportunity to talk about my life, about transworld, about  my friends. I mean, try to shut me up!  

Heading out on the town in Hollywood.
So I’ve come up with a crash course in trans life.  Some answers for the common questions you might face.  Or that the general public really should know.  BTW... I do have limits.  If a total stranger wants to know something intensely personal, like whether you have a cock or not... just tell him to fuck off.

Now I’m not a doctor or a therapist or trained gender specialist of any kind, so please don’t anyone take any of the following as anything but the ramblings of a tgirl blogger. But... the answers written below are pretty close to the answers I’d give if asked by a friend.

Thursday, September 19, 2013

Allies Among Us - A Blog for SuddenlyFem by CiCi Kytten

Allies Among Us

I hope the person who sent me the email I refer to in this blog doesn’t mind.  Because I think it’s worth sharing.  I know a lot of the readers of this blog have never been out. And those who do usually go out to trans-friendly events or clubs. 

And that makes sense.  For a lot of us, this dressing thing is more of a hobby than a vocation. Few of us will transition or attempt to live fulltime as a woman.  Most of us only go out in public on rare occasions.  And I suspect that large majority of us will never leave the safety of our homes.

But those of us that do go out tend to head for gay clubs, tgirls bars, or drag shows.  In LA where I live, the “out” girls are making a big effort to get out in the general public -- either on their own or in planned tgirl excursions.  (See the photo of me below, hitting the beach at one of Shelbe Chang’s SoCal Tgirl Fun Events.)

CiCi @ Bolsa Chica State Beach. Photo by Victoria Goldscale.

I know a lot of girls don’t like to be out in the general public.  They don’t want to mix with the vanillas.  And I know why.  You never know that you’re going to run into.  When I walk into a normal neighborhood bar in CiCi mode, I know I’m going to turn a few heads.  Maybe every head.  I mean, even the most disinterested drunken barfly is going to glance up from his Bud Lite when a 6’ blonde in 5" heels walks in.

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Dream Something - A Blog for Suddenly Fem by CiCi KItten

This month is the 50th Anniversary of the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom, and of Martin Luther King’s historic “I Have a Dream” speech.

Now it might not seem like the life of a civil rights leader like King would have much impact on a young middle class kid growing up in a lily-white small town in New England. And you’d be right.  I don’t remember the speech... I was 2 at the time. But I do remember when King was assassinated.  And the significance of his life and efforts have only grown on me as I’ve matured and learned a little more about the broader world around me.

Of course for most of my life I have been part of the more privileged class.  Not that I was ever rich.  But I went to nice schools, lived in a clean, crime-free, Norman Rockwell small town, and I went to college.  Not every kid in the U.S. grows up like that.  And percentage-wise... very few kids in the world grow up like that.

But now things have changed a bit. Or a lot.  While I’m still a part of the most powerful voting block there is -- college-educated, heterosexual white males -- I now find myself a part of one of the most powerless groups... the transgender population.  A population that is struggling for acceptance, respect, and legal rights.  A population that is often ignored or neglected -- even in some LGBT groups. 
Strolling around Vegas, Amber DuBois photo. (2013)