Tuesday, April 10, 2012

The End of the Two Party System - A blog by Cici Kitten for Crossdresser.com

I don’t usually like to categorize myself.  Like most tgirls, I am many things.  But if you strapped me down to a rack and beat me (and btw… I could really use a night like that right now), I’d be forced to admit that I’m a bit of a party girl.  I like parties. I like to dance (badly) and sing (loudly) … and drown all my cares and worries in a big pink cosmopolitan. 

That to me is a pretty good night. 

So I like parties.  But what I really hate is two parties.  That’s the current American political system.  The two party system.  Republicans and Democrats.  Conservatives and liberals.  Blue states and red states. And they have such a stranglehold on the electorate that there’s no room for anything else.  Or anyone else.  Or anything new.

We’re taught from a very early age that, politically speaking, there are two parties, two ways of thinking, and we grow up believing that.  Even when it doesn’t work for us.

Let me illustrate. There are a lot of hunters out there who belong to the NRA (a very conservative organization), but they also want to protect America’s wild places (a typically liberal viewpoint) – who do they vote for?  Or what about a passionate activist who abhors the taking of human life, including capital punishment (that’s a liberal stance).  But what if this person also abhors the practice of abortion (a conservative position) – who does she vote for?

The media isn’t much help.  The media likes to feed us sound bites and easy-to-understand arguments.  They don’t have the time (or often the ability) to breakdown more complicated issues and discussions.  So they just keep feeding us the same two combatants – conservative and liberal – the good guys and the bad guys.  Of course the group wearing the white hats and the group wearing the black hats depends on the political swing of the media source you’re getting your news from. But in the end, it is still reinforced that we only have two choices. 

(BTW… it’s not the media’s fault entirely.  Sometimes the American public is resistant to anything new or complex… or different.  So the media provides exactly what we can handle.  Two ways of thinking. All tied up in a nice, neat bow.)

But life is not neat. And life, like a feisty subbie, can’t always be tied up in a bow.  Which brings me to the real topic of my blog:  gender.

You see, when it comes to gender, it’s the two-party system all over again.  We’re taught there are two genders. And only two.  Boys and girls.  Men and women.  Male and female.  It’s a pretty common theory, and, of course, there is plenty of physical evidence to back it up.   You don’t need a science lab or in-depth study to know that the anatomy of boys and girls are different, just check below your waist.

So there it is. Years of tradition.  Years of culture.  Eons of biology.  It’s a two-gender world.

Or is it?  What if gender is more than my cock and your pussy?  What if gender is more than the physical?  What if gender also incorporates the mental? The emotional? The soulful? The spiritual? The invisible?

We’re taught from a very early age that there are two genders, two ways of being, and we grow up believing that.  Even when it doesn’t work for us.

But what if we’re seeking something more?  What if two gender parties aren’t enough?  What if we want a little from both sides – the pink shirts and the blue shirts?  Gender roles are changing all around us and they have been for quite sometime.  In my lifetime I’ve watched women become more accepted in the work place, more accepted in politics and science labs, and most simply of all, accepted in a pair of jeans.  Men today, by the same token, are much more likely to stay at home, raise a family, or allow their wives to make important family decisions.  Things are hardly equal, but these examples are so common now it’s almost hard to remember when they weren’t. 

I remember a line from the movie, “Carnal Knowledge.”  Candace Bergen tells Art Garfunkel that she’s studying law.  Garfunkel expresses surprise and says something like, “Imagine that.  A woman lawyer.”  That was in 1969. Less then 20 years later, when I was working in Hollywood, nearly every lawyer I met was a woman.

See? The world changes.  Gender definitions change.  And they will continue to change.  So why is it that I still can’t wear my hot little mini skirt to the mall?

I’ve noticed something pretty cool on a few websites lately.  When I’m going to register, they ask me to click a box for my gender, and for the first time ever, there are no longer just two boxes.  Some websites now list three:  Male, Female, and Other.  Think about that.  Since we were first able to pick up a pencil and scribble our names, there have only been two gender boxes on every application or registration we’ve ever filled out.

Til now.

I don’t know how long it will be before we can all wear our mini skirts and sexy heels to the mall. (I know some of you already do.)  I don’t know long it will be before wec an shop freely in both the men’s and women’s departments.  (Again, I know some of you already do.) But most of us don’t.  And most of us probably will never feel comfortable to do so in our lifetime.  And that’s fine with me.  I’ll shop online. Or I’ll continue telling the salesclerk that I’m shopping for my wife.  Or my girlfriend.  Or my oversexed, delinquent daughter.  But this is about more than shopping.

I mean, here’s a question for you.  When will boys and girls stop committing suicide because they know they will never fit into one of those two gender boxes that society wants to force them into?

When will that finally happen?

The trouble with the two party system – aside from being annoying and frustrating to free thinkers everywhere – is that it causes gridlock.  The conservatives stay to the right.  The liberals stay to the left.  No one moves.  No one concedes.  No one compromises.  To do so would be seen as defeat.  So, while our politicians find victory in this gridlock – they seem to miss the fact that nothing of great importance ever gets done.  And even more sadly, nothing innovative is ever even considered.

I am not a great thinker or a free thinker or a very complicated individual (I’m a party girl, remember?).  But I still need more than two boxes on my ballot to express my true feelings as a voter, a citizen and a person. 

And even more importantly, our children need to know that there are more than two gender boxes waiting for them out there in the world. In fact, maybe we need to start teaching them that there aren’t any boxes at all.

Take care out there.
Be safe. Be smart. Be sexy.



Anonymous said...

Hi Cici,
I've caught bits and pieces of your blog now and then. Your right on track here with this one about the two party system. In government and in sexual awareness. There is a lot to said about both. Change builds upon change,things are never set in stone unless an uneducated society wills it to be so. At the end of the day we are all liberal and conservative, heterosexual and transgender. We give a little so we can take what we need out of life only to return it ten fold. However, the focus should never be on which box you get to select but rather on how to eliminate the box altogether.
I enjoyed the article Cici and look forward to hearing more from you.

tara said...

Hi. First of all, I love your look. Very hot. And I would love a night of partying with you. But I drink bourbon, on ice. Cosmo are more of a Sex & The City drink. But if we both drink our drinks enough, then it's all good I guess. And where did you get that outfit? Amazing. Imve been wearing mostly short skirts and black stockings with strappy heels to show off my amazing long legs. But you look amazing. You've started me tinking about changing my look.
Anyway, I loved what you wrote. But there are alternatives to the 2 party political syste stranglehold. I voted for Nader in the 2000 Presidential election. I liked a lot of what the Green Party platform stood for. More freedom, caring about working class and poor people, caring about nature and the environment. Of course Ralph Nader is a little bit of a nut but he said some inconvenient truths about corporate control of the political system through campaign contributions and of the media through corporate control of broadcast media. GE owns NBC, Rupert Murdoch owns Fox News. It's an interlocking conspiracy of the media and their two sided talking heads, the corporations that own the politicians with their donations and the politicians who need the media to be heard and seen and get air time and get reelected. Politicians work for corporations or the media when they leave officce. The real corporate higher-ups become part of the government and set policy that helps the corporations. Robert Rubin and Henry Paulson from Goldman Sachs, the most powerful investment bank on Wall Street, were both Secretary of the Treasury. Rubin for Bill Clinton, Paulson for the second George Bush. It's a revolving door. Work in a corporation, work in the government, back and forth they go.
Then last year I worked on a campaign for a Libertarian candidate for U.S. Congress. He got 20% of the vote. The incumbent won. Big surprise. But there were some really smart, tough independent people working on the campaign. People who could think for themselves and not just follow the herd.That is really rare. I love their slogan: "More freedom, Less government". A lot of the sentiment and the beliefs of Libertarian people trace back to the colonial days when the colonists threw off an oppressive government. At that time it was England. Today, it's based in Washington DC. Some of the people I met on that campaign are very close. That's a long story.
But we live in the U.S.A. This is what we do and what we've been doing for hundreds of yeara- arguing, debating, complaining, protesting, everyone expressing their view and trying to change the government and try to make it better. It's a great country. A great system. It never ends. I'm a patriot. I love the United States of America. Another long story ... LOL
But there's this song by The Talking Heads called "Don't Worry About The Governmment". That's probably the best description of how I really feel. I'm thinking about when those new hot boots will get here by UPS. And how do you learn how to apply eye liner properly. Peace. ... tara-

Arianna Marie Cigolini said...

Hi CiCi, excellent article! You are a critical thinker, and that is a rarity these days. You are spot on saying we need to eliminate
the boxes. We are all human, and that is something we have been taught to forget. The powers that be, want us to be divided so we can more easily be controlled. It's Coke vs Pepsi, McDonalds vs Burger King, Ford vs Chevy etc.
Government combined with Madison Ave. and Wall St. have convinced us that there are only two ways to select anything, so we mostly end up picking the "lesser of two evils". We all need to wake up to what's going on around us. We have
allowed ourselves to be socially
engineered, and that has had a trickle down effect on society in general. It would be great if we could use the un-tapped resources of the 3rd sex to raise awareness, not only to the gender issues, but to the political, social and policy
issues that take more of our freedoms every day. I'd be very happy to work with you on this, should you feel the same way. Keep
up the great work, and feel free to contact me anytime.
Best regards,
Arianna Marie Cigolini

Anonymous said...

Life isn't all about body image.

That was not an issue, for me, until I started dressing regularly and realized that "one size fits most" doesn't fit ME.

Nor is it all about Politics ... an increasingly awkward issue, since the Two-Party System became the same thing, seen from two perspectives ... but still just a matter of the "Ins" and the "Outs".

However, you've hit the ball out of the park by describing how both issues overlap in this increasingly complex world.

That overlap is even more evident, and important, for those of us who don't fit comfortably in either of the two "SLOTS" which have been arbitrated for the convenience of statisticians and the sorry slugs who make a living by designing data-input forms.

There's little that you or I can do to reconcile the dichotomy of data input. The inclusion of an "OTHER" option is a small, but important step. I'm pleased that you chose this topic for discussion.

The solution would be to try to define "sex" (as in "gender") to fit every possible combination. That's obviously not a viable solution, however, as it would add at least another page to every questionnaire, and still there would be sub-sets of sexual preference who would resent not being included.

For now and for the foreseeable future, we will all fit in the "OTHER" slot. Which isn't all bad, since for many of us our personal life lies in the daily decision about whose Tab "A" fits into whose Slot "B".

Jeri Bland

Anonymous said...

Interesting comments, I love it.

But what if the third box was Androgynous? would that create a major tailspin within the parties? How many individuals/representatives would move over? good question and how do they really think now, male or female? is this why there is always such gridlock? the only thing wrong with being androgynous is the lack of acceptance.
If there is conflict within a persons mind, how could that person address a nation not being clear as to who they are?
You have to love yourself before you could love others.

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So simple

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