Men

Now here’s something I didn’t see coming. All this time I’ve been working on myself. Trying to be more femme. Trying to perfect my makeup. Trying out heels for men. Trying out crossdressing lingerie. It’s not easy. It takes lots of concentration and focus. Is it any wonder that we tv/cd girls have gotten a reputation for being self-absorbed? Look at all we have to concentrate on just to walk out our front doors! (It’s a wonder that we’re not more self-absorbed than we already are.)

None of this comes that naturally to us. And yet, for me at least, a lot of it does come naturally, once I let my guard down and allow myself to be free of my traditional male patterns of behavior. It’s all part of the process, I think. To change our appearance. To change our physical movements. And, most importantly, to change the way we think. To think more like a woman. Or at least to think more from a woman’s point of view.

But what about when it comes to sex and romance? Now, a lot of you probably aren’t looking for sex or romance when you dress. Perhaps you’re already in a committed relationship. Or perhaps you don’t have a strong urge to engage in intimate relationships right now. But for those of you who do have the urge, you’ll find that there are a lot of options out there! And it can get pretty intense.

When I started dressing, I didn’t give much thought to romance. I liked women (genetic women), and I never expected that to change. I was perfectly happy being a straight male. But a funny thing happened on my way to a lifetime of heterosexuality. My straight road curved.

It wasn’t long after I started hanging out with other cd/tv girls that I began to feel myself attracted to them. This wasn’t something I planned or even expected. This wasn’t something that people tried to talk me into. But there it was. Suddenly. An attraction to other T’s. It’s pretty simple to understand I think. You are so attracted to the feminine image that you want to emulate it. You begin paying attention to all kinds of details you missed before. Makeup and hair styles. Clothing styles. Accessories. Gestures. You find yourself not just looking at girls, but studying them. You study them on the TV, in movies, and in magazines. You reach the point where you’re obsessed with feminine style. And then you walk into a bar filled with a whole lot of tgirls and crossdressers who feel exactly the same way. You share similar passions. For heels. For corsets. For hosiery for men! So it’s not that much of a leap to think you might develop a passion for one another.

For lack of a better term, I “hooked up” with a few tgirls and found I really liked it. I’m not going to go into a lot of details here. (It’s not that kind of blog! LOL!) But I had fun and I hope my partners did too. Of course, like your first attempts at romance in your teen years, your first attempts at romance in tgirl world will probably be fraught with nervousness, awkwardness, and a fair amount of stumbling around in the dark. So what? You enjoyed (and survived) all that as a teen. Chances are you’ll enjoy (and survive) all of that awkwardness now!

It was a big step for me… to explore romance from the perspective of my CiCi persona. But my attraction to men kind of blindsided me. I really didn’t see myself ever going that way. I’d never been attracted to men in my male life. Although, I have to admit that in my fantasies, I’d been with both men and women, and everything in between. (I have a pretty healthy fantasy life.) But that was just fantasy. I never thought I’d want to be with a man in real life. Heck, most of my cd momentum had me moving further and further away from all things masculine. But then it happened.

I may have discussed this before. Sorry if I’m being redundant. But it was so simple. After a club shut down one night, a nice man walked me to my car. We held hands. He wasn’t pushy. He seemed almost protective. We chatted briefly when we got to my car. And then we kissed good night. Nothing dramatic. No fireworks. No falling stars. But all very nice. And, much to my surprise, very erotic to me.

It was just a few moments in time. But it changed completely the way I thought about men. More importantly, it changed the way I thought about myself. Here I was, trying to be so girlie in so many ways. And I’d overlooked the one thing, above all else, that can make a person feel girlie: a man!

That’s what started me on this new path. And there’s no going back now. I guess this means I’m officially gay. Or bi. Or whatever. (I’m kinda having too much fun to care.) Now, I don’t think I can convince anyone else to like men. To change their sexual orientation. I don’t think I have the power to convert anyone. But I can tell my story. And maybe it will have an effect on someone.

You see. I know a lot of tgirls online who start their profile with the words, “No Men.” And then I hear them talk about how they can’t meet someone who will accept them. They talk about how lonely they are. And I want to say to them, “Maybe it’s time to broaden your horizons.” You know? Maybe you’ve never been attracted to men. But maybe your social programming has gotten the better of you. Maybe the extent of your social programming was so complete, that you never gave the thought of sex or romance with a man any real consideration.

Now don’t get me wrong! It’s not like men don’t come with baggage of their own. I’m sure you’ve already heard the stories. They’re only interested in one thing. They cancel at the last minute. They pull “no shows.” And often when they do show up, they don’t want to be seen in public with you. Plus, a lot of them are tense because they’re cheating on their wives or girlfriends. (Of course, all of this is nothing new to our gg sisters. Gender girls have known about all this for centuries.)

Still, that’s my advice to you. If you’re lonely. Or unsatisfied. Or just plain bored. Why not open yourself to the possibility of something new. (Or someone new?) If you honestly consider it, and it still doesn’t work for you – well, then, at least you gave it a try. But new experiences, new possibilities, new ways of seeing yourself in a more feminine role? That’s what this whole tgirl thing is all about, isn’t it?

Take care out there!
Be safe. Be smart. Be sexy!
xoxo,
CiCi

Even the stars Cross Dress!

It takes a real man to play a woman! Whether done for fun or to create a more profound impact on media and art, cross dressing stars are nothing new to Hollywood.

There have been many actors and actresses that have crossdressed at one time or another. Tom Hanks had a show called Bosom Buddies in the 80’s. The show was kind of silly and the clothes, wigs and shoes were all awful. Then who could forget Robin Williams in Mrs. Doubtfire? While Dennis Rodman's public appearances in varying degrees of drag are well-documented. Even Mr. John Travolta himself cross dressed when he started as Edna Turnblad in the 2007 release of Hairspray!

Here are some more famous cross dressers:

Harvey Korman played a hefty Jewish mother character on The Carol Burnett Show.

Rudy Giuliani appeared on Saturday Night Live dressed as a woman.

Comedian Eddie Izzard describes himself as an "Executive Transvestite."

Herman Goering, commander of the Luftwaffe in WW II, was also a crossdresser and partial to silk nightwear.

King Henry III of France insisted on being considered a woman and addressed as "Her Majesty."

Tony Curtis supposedly wore women's clothing even after "Some Like It Hot."

Sportscaster Marv Albert, who it was revealed wore bras, panties, and garters and stockings under his suits!

And the man who might not have started it all, but is certainly most famous for his outlandish roles dressed in drag. Tim Curry has become an underground icon for his promiscuous role in the Rocky Horror Picture Show – a true cult classic.

Wigs 101. Tips for selecting and securing your Wig from Chrissy Winters!

There are several great things about wearing a wig, such as you can change your look quickly and easily. You almost never have to worry about having a bad hair day as most synthetic wigs pretty much hold their original shape and style.

Suddenly Fem offers a wide variety of wigs to choose from and they all designed and manufactured to fit a man’s larger head size. They also offer a larger size wig cap making the fitting of your perfect hair do effortless.

When selecting a wig try and choose a hair color that is reasonably close to your own. Remember that genetic traits such as skin tone, eye color and hair color (eyebrow color too) play an important role in your selection.

How to Wear a Wig?

Choose a wig that fits. Many wigs have straps that can be adjusted to achieve a better fit, just make sure there isn’t too much space left inside the wig that will leave a bubble.

• Wear a wig cap if you don’t want your hair to show through, or blend your hair together with your wig for a more natural look.
• Center the wig on your head before putting it on. Many wigs have a parting or some indication of the center.
• Put the wig on by pulling it over your head and then pulling the back of the wig down to secure it.
• Make sure the front of the wig aligns with your hairline and that the wig is snug on your head.
• Secure the wig with bobby pins to ensure your hair doesn’t escape
  

Some quick tips when selecting a wig….

While you should stick close to color, I feel it's OK to get a curlier style even if your own hair is straight o vise-versa.

Try to avoid styles that part down the middle, leaving the forehead exposed. These can look very unnatural.

I strongly believe that your wig is the ultimate accessory that will make or break your look and outfit. You can certainly trust crossdresser.com wigs to make you look your best!

Great Tips for selecting your perfect pair of glass slippers from Chrissy Winters

One thing all of us girls have in common is that we all love a great pair of shoes. Suddenly Fem can help you select your perfect pair of glass slippers!

First you will need to convert your men’s shoe size to a woman’s size shoe. For example if you currently wear a size 10 in men’s then you are a size 12 in women’s. If you are not 100% sure on what size shoe you need in a women’s shoe, I suggest purchasing a shoe chart from Suddenly Fem just to be sure.

The perfect pair of crossdressing shoes for any of us girls is a classic pair of pumps. If you area beginner to wearing pumps you might want to test drive your shoes at home before wearing them out on the town. You also may want to practice walking in then first, going up and down stairs and getting up and down so you know what to expect. You don’t want to look clumsy wearing your pumps so practice makes perfect.

Here is another tip…..if you have large legs or thick ankles you might want to consider wearing a chunkier heal, especially when wearing a skirt or dress. Not only does a chunkier heal more comfortable to walk in but they will also make your ankles appear thinner – bonus!

Boots are also a popular choice. A boot can be worn with everything from a jean-skirt to a dress and they look great! Coupled with the fact that boots are so sexy & feminine, but don't reveal too much, you really can’t go wrong! Boots are totally sexy and make a statement.

Some quick tips:

• Know your size in women’s shoes before making a selection

• If you are new to wearing women’s shoe start off slowly with a comfortable and chunkier heal

• Boots can be worn with just about anything and are super sexy & feminine

• Black shoes are extremely versatile and can be worn with just about anything

• White shoes are great with bright colors like red or pinks

• Silver shoes look good with white, black, blue, purple and pinks

So next time you see a pair of drop dead gorgeous pair of shoes…just remember that we all know that girls can never have enough pairs of shoes!