John Wayne

John Wayne is a Sissy
(A message for the Transgender Day of Remembrance)

Most of us are sissies. A sissy is defined as any ~boy or man regarded as effeminate.~ So no matter how hot you look. No matter how domme or butch you might be. To a lot of people out there, you are still a sissy. An effeminate guy who has gone so far as to dress as a woman.

Now I know this is not really true. I have met several of my tg friends in guy mode and I would not describe most of them as effeminate. Of course they are not particularly macho either. Most of them are pretty normal guys ~ husbands and fathers, execs and repairmen, outdoor enthusiasts and studious bookworms. But to most of the world, once we strap on our heels, we are all sissies. And I can accept that.

Some T-girls hate the word, it still has too many negative connotations. But I do not mind. I mean, if you are saying I look and act like a girl, well, duh, that is what Iam trying to do!

It is the second definition of sissy that bothers me. The second definition of sissy is, ~a person regarded as timid or cowardly.~ Now I have met lots of timid T-girls. Even the most confident drag doll can feel pretty intimidated when she is around new people or in a strange place. We can all get a little shy.

But cowardly? I am sorry. I just cannot see that. The truth is, T-girls are some of the bravest people I know. Think about it for a second.

Think about the closeted T-girl going out to a night club or to a support group for the very first time.

Think about the out-and-about T-girl going on her first date.

Think about the young T ~ no more than eight years old ~ slipping into her sisters closet to try on a pair of panties. Knowing that her family could return at any time and catch her in the act.

Or the teen who faces mockery and bullying every day at school.

Think about the many T-girls of all ages who come out to their friends every year. Or to their families. Or to their wives.

Think of those brave enough to physically transform themselves ~ at the risk of losing their friends and family, or ruining their careers.

Some of our most honored heroes would not dare attempt such feats of bravery! Now would it not be amazing if the rest of the world realized this? Would it be amazing if dictionaries started listing the second definition of sissy as someone who ~displays uncommon courage at the risk of tremendous personal loss~?

Would that not be a trip? Then we would start calling war heroes and daredevils and civil rights leaders sissies! And it would be a compliment. The bravest of the brave. Can you imagine?

John Wayne? Sissy!

Malcolm X? Sissy!

Evil Knievel? Such a sissy!

The outmanned, outgunned Minutemen who started the American Revolution? Sissies all!

Sam Peckinpahs ~Wild Bunch~? A bunch of sissies!

Bruce Willis? Sly Stallone? Arnold Schwarzenegger? Sissy. Sissy. Sissy.

All the T-girls we remember each Trans Day of Remembrance? Those who died ~ often violently – due to hatred or prejudice? Innocents killed for the terrible sin of insisting on being themselves?

Sissies.

The bravest of the brave.



Look for Transgender Day of Remembrance events and activities all around the country – and perhaps the world – during the week of November 16-22.

Take care out there.
Be smart. Be safe. Be sexy.
xoxo,
CiCi

(Definitions courtesy of the American Heritage Dictionary)